All my life experiences, good and not so good, made me who I am, prepared me for what I do. I am grateful.
It took several years to right my ship. I am now remarried and in a career I love. Life is rich.
Top 8 obstacles potential candidates find for NOT joining a Peer Group
1. “I don’t have time/I’m too busy”
The true objection is that you believe your time is better spent elsewhere. It is a question of priorities. We all have the same amount of time.
I’ve never met someone who said “I have one day a month with nothing to do. This is perfect!” Once a member, you may find, like so many others, that access to the group and individual coaching helps work through issues that would have taken far more time alone.
Group members are among the highest achievers anywhere and all are very conscious of how they invest their time. Members report that they stop doing other people’s work, start getting home earlier, and devote more time to the most important relationships in their lives. The day away from the office allows those member’s reports who would otherwise ask for assistance to take initiative and resolve issues using their own resources. This alone is a valuable management and leadership lesson.
2. “I can’t afford coaching”
If you don’t receive at least equivalent value to what you are paying, then coaching probably isn’t for you. The only thing that will keep you as a member long term is if you keep receiving value. Otherwise, your this coaching makes no sense for you.
3. “I need to wait until I get this project done (or business slows, or finish year end close, or…..)
When has life ever slowed or stopped so you can take on a new initiative? Has it gotten any better over say, the last year. Unless you take charge, it won’t change. Generally, members wished they had joined earlier.
4. “I already have a peer group.”
Some peer groups are mistaken for social clubs. Some have casual problem solving processes. Many concentrate on social activities. We have intense, concentrated meetings invested in problem solving and learning from world class experts. Meetings are productive and members leave with new methods for leading their own staffs back at the office. Some find their other peer group an excellent complement to ours and retain membership in both.
Our groups have a trained facilitator-Me. I receive hundreds of hours of training annually in order to maintain a highly functioning group. My groups and members are my highest professional priority.
5. “I already have an executive coach.”
Industry coaches know your business’ inside and out and are excellent complements to our Group. Our peer group has no specialists in your industry. Similar industries and direct competitors are excluded from the group so you will feel open enough to share anything with everyone. All of our members have similar general business issues such as strategy, personnel, budgeting, taxes, etc. Frequently, totally unrelated industry ideas can be the spark for you to look at your own business in a new and creative way. In addition, no matter how good a coach is, they are only one mind. They cannot generate the varied ideas, alternatives, and synergy like the group dynamic does. Each private session with me is preparation for discussions with your peer group. Peers hold one another accountable far more than a single coach can. The coaching and peer group combination creates an atmosphere of accountability and focus, maximizing the growth of each member.
6. “I already have an advisory board.”
You have friends, trusted advisors, a spouse, and buddies. Do they give you agenda-free advice? Might they be biased in different ways such as: their love and affection for you, their desire to impress, their position in the business, a fee based on activity not results, their axe to grind. Their advice might be good, but it isn’t free of some agenda. Our Group offers direct, “carefrontational”, agenda-free advice, giving each other their best thinking. Its yours to accept or decline. The highest performing members listen hard to what they’re told by other members.
7. “I can’t trust others with my secrets.”
If this is you, this will be the first issue you’ll need to address! Members learn how to trust by being trustworthy. Groups immediately study how to maintain confidentiality, because that is the necessary ingredient for true sharing. All private meetings are based on the foundational concept of mutual confidentiality.
8. “No one knows my business like I do”
All businesses are different but all tend to share the same challenges. Members quickly learn that they are not the smartest person at the table on every issue. Every member will tell you: I have learned fundamental lessons from each person in my group.