Are you curious?
The most important characteristic of a coach is curiosity. Curiosity can take discipline. It can also be learned. Here’s a way to exercise your curiosity muscle.
In social conversations with people try not to talk about yourself. Someone asks you about you, of course reply, but also include a question with a follow up about them.
“How are you?”
“I’m doing great, what did you do for Easter?”.
Easy right? Here’s the challenge. When you receive a response, ask another question without mentioning yourself. Ask/talk about them. Discipline yourself to finding out more about the other person. Concentrate on getting information, not giving. This can be fun as you test yourself to see how long you can go without talking about you! And you’ll be surprised how much fun it will be. People love to talk about themselves. They will appreciate someone else showing interest.
Many don’t have interest in others as they are preoccupied with their own problems, situations, etc. Your curiosity (hopefully it is genuine) will be refreshing to all you talk to. Not only will you make more friends and solidify the friendships you have, you will reduce your own stress by taking your mind off yourself. You may be surprised how much fun it is to concentrate on others!
Try it and let me know how it goes.